2021-9-2 NEVER DATE YOUR FRIENDS EX

[0:00 - 0:25] What is up? What is up? What is up? What is up? What is up? What is up? What is up? What is up? What is up? What is up? What is up? Now, I'm making this video for boogeyman the clown.
[0:25 - 0:46] AKA Paul Kasten who is or I don't know what we are dude. I don't know if we're friends, not friends. I don't know.
[0:46 - 1:11] But me and you need to have a little chitchat my dude. Lesson one of friendships. Lesson one of friendships my guy. Never ever ever ever date your friend's ex.
[1:11 - 1:35] That's weird dude. I'll send you the link to it as soon as I can bro. I don't worry dog. Until then this is us and hey.
[1:35 - 2:01] But my dude. Like I said man. Never ever under any circumstances do you ever date your friend's ex. Cuz one that's just plain fucking rude.
[2:01 - 2:19] First off that's rude as fuck to date your friend's ex. And two, do you know how hurtful that is? Or in your case it's not hurtful to me at all.
[2:19 - 2:36] I mean it is, but not in the way that you think. What's hurtful about it is that you're saying they're flaunting it and putting it out there and being like oh well.
[2:36 - 2:52] You know like oh we're together now blah blah blah yada yada yada. Like one that makes me feel like shit because of the fact that I'm not with anyone right now.
[2:52 - 3:10] And because of Kate's little bitch bullshit it's very hard for me to even find a girlfriend so there's that. There's that part of things. And two that literally goes against everything in the book.
[3:10 - 3:18] And for your case dude you should have learned from what me and Ricky went through my man.
[3:18 - 3:24] You should have taken what happened with me and what happened with Ricky and even to Jessica.
[3:24 - 3:28] You should take what we went through with Heather into consideration.
[3:28 - 3:35] Like there's a pattern here dude. You know she's gonna do what you my man. She's gonna use you.
[3:35 - 3:44] She's gonna use you for money. Use you to get a kid. And then what's she gonna do? She's gonna dump you when it's convenient bro.
[3:44 - 3:53] That's how she is man.
[3:53 - 3:59] That's how she fucking works.
[3:59 - 4:09] Like don't get wrong dude I'm glad that you found somebody but bro. That being that person being my ex that's not fucking cool man.
[4:09 - 4:19] Like you dating my ex is like me dating one of your exes. It wouldn't be fair to you nor would it be right.
[4:19 - 4:33] I wouldn't go behind your back and date your ex and be like oh well I'm dating your ex now. I'm sorry but we're dating now I hope you're not mad.
[4:33 - 4:42] Like do you know how awkward that fucking is man? Do you know how fucking awkward that shit is dog?
[4:42 - 4:50] Like and Heather like I don't care if you get mad at me or what I don't give a shit. I really don't give two fucks.
[4:50 - 4:56] But you don't need to be with anybody.
[4:56 - 5:09] You have a legitimate history of using guys and girls having kids with them and then dumping them and leaving.
[5:09 - 5:26] Like that's what you do. That's what you do with me. That's what you did with Jessica. That's what you did with Ricky. Which twice in a row you did that to Ricky so I feel more sorry for him than anyone.
[5:26 - 5:32] Like bro come on dude. Be smart Paul.
[5:32 - 5:48] You never date your friend's ex ever. That shit's one as awkward as fuck because that's your ex that you have to put up with even more than you don't already want to put up with them.
[5:48 - 5:56] And then to have your best friend date them. Do you know how fucked up that is?
[5:56 - 6:08] Like come on man.
[6:08 - 6:17] Alright grand don't get wrong. Like I'm glad that you found somebody bro but it could have been anybody else. Anybody.
[6:17 - 6:21] Hell to be honest with you.
[6:21 - 6:31] If you were to date my ex Megan I would have been more happy over that because Megan didn't really treat me like shit.
[6:31 - 6:39] Her family got in the way. That's why I mean her and together anymore because her family kept getting in the way of us being together.
[6:39 - 6:55] Like it's not that we didn't want to be together it's her family that got involved and fucked all that shit up which also happened with my ex Caitlyn right before her.
[6:55 - 7:09] So trust me when I say dude dating an ex that has a very smooth that's not the smartest move there Romeo like that's not the smoothest move at all my guy.
[7:09 - 7:34] Like I said I'm glad that you found somebody but dude of all fucking people why did it have to be my ex? Why did it have to be the one ex of mine that is a total fucking bitch that is a total fucking deadbeat of a parent.
[7:34 - 7:43] Like why? You could have gone for anyone bro. Anybody.
[7:43 - 7:57] But yet you chose the one bitch that you knew would piss me off.
[7:57 - 8:06] And believe me I may look calm right now but on the inside Paul I am literally wanting to break every fucking bone in your body right now.
[8:06 - 8:20] Like straight the fuck up because that's something that you don't do. Especially when you know that person's ex has a very bad history of doing fucked up shit dude.
[8:20 - 8:39] Like you dating my ex Heather would be like me dating your ex that treated you like shit. Same situation bro. Same thing.
[8:39 - 8:59] Like I wouldn't go behind your back and date your ex Susan that treated you like shit. So why would you want to go behind my back and date my ex who kept me locked in a room and literally put me in a fight or flight mode and basically held me hostage.
[8:59 - 9:18] Talk shit about my family behind their backs. Got pissed off because we looked after my dog and fed him before we even ate. Because that dog is family. That dog is our family.
[9:18 - 9:27] Like why would you want to date somebody like that bro. You could do so much better. And you know you could bro.
[9:27 - 9:36] Like I said the only reason I'm not with anybody right now is because of Kate. Do I want to be with somebody 100% I do.
[9:36 - 9:50] I really do like I would love to be with somebody because maybe then I wouldn't have to be so fucking worried all the goddamn time and I can actually get my normal life back to where it was.
[9:50 - 10:00] So that's the only reason I'm not with anybody. It's not that I'm not looking. It's just because of Kate and what she does.
[10:00 - 10:08] I literally can't do anything because the minute that she finds out it's game over for me.
[10:08 - 10:24] So I don't really have that luxury of being able to be with anyone right now as much I would love for that to happen as much I would love to actually be happy again for the first time in my fucking life in a long time.
[10:24 - 10:27] I don't get that luxury.
[10:27 - 10:38] So how do you think it made me feel when we talked earlier and y'all are sitting there talking all dirty right there in front of me and doing all this shit.
[10:38 - 10:45] Like bro that's bullshit my guy. That's fucked up.
[10:45 - 10:51] Like if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't sit there in front of you and talk dirty to her in front of you.
[10:51 - 10:56] That's just disrespectful and rude all the way around.
[10:56 - 11:01] Like it's one thing if you're cracking jokes ha ha ha don't get it wrong.
[11:01 - 11:07] I have a sense of humor. I've cracked dirty dirty ass jokes before.
[11:07 - 11:11] Like I'm not a stranger to that. I do it all the time.
[11:11 - 11:22] But bro to sit there and crack dirty jokes to your friend's ex who you're dating in front of them.
[11:22 - 11:26] That's fucked.
[11:26 - 11:32] Like seriously that is fucked up bro.
[11:32 - 11:38] Like I would never do any of what you've done to me. I would never do that to you.
[11:38 - 11:49] I'm not like that. I don't believe in doing that shit.
[11:49 - 12:02] I don't believe in dating your friend's ex and talking dirty to your now girlfriend in front of the guy that they dated.
[12:02 - 12:07] Like I don't do that. That's not me.
[12:07 - 12:16] Like bro you need to straighten your shit up.
[12:16 - 12:26] And I hope you know Paul that you're basically having my seconds when it comes to that.
[12:26 - 12:32] I hope you know that.
[12:32 - 12:42] Because think about this bro. I had her before you. So you're basically fucking me which is disturbing.
[12:42 - 12:52] Like bro I had her before you did. Therefore on all technical terms you may as well be sleeping with me at that point.
[12:52 - 13:00] Even though that is disturbing as hell and no don't get any fucking crack wise crack ideas because I'm not being funny.
[13:00 - 13:05] Like you're basically having my seconds and that's just wrong.
[13:05 - 13:11] Like dude you don't know what kind of fucking shit she may have or might not have.
[13:11 - 13:15] Dude look at all the people she slept with.
[13:15 - 13:23] For real look at all the people that Heather slept with. Look at how many kids she has that she doesn't have custody of.
[13:23 - 13:27] One of them being my fucking son.
[13:27 - 13:35] One of them being my son that she gave up for adoption.
[13:35 - 13:42] And that shit still hurts even to this very day. That shit still fucks with me. To this very fucking day.
[13:42 - 13:49] Knowing that I'll never get to see my son grow up. And that hurts.
[13:49 - 13:53] That hurts me so much as a father.
[13:53 - 14:02] That really does. That hurts me on a deep level that you can't even begin to comprehend.
[14:02 - 14:07] And Paul I know you've had kids before. I know you have.
[14:07 - 14:15] Imagine not being able to see your kids at all for the rest of their lives because they're in a fucking foster home.
[14:15 - 14:21] And that foster family adopted them and denied all rights for you to see their kid.
[14:21 - 14:35] All because your ex wanted to pull some shit and lie to the people and basically give your kid away to a foster family.
[14:35 - 14:42] Imagine getting put to death because that's what I've dealt with.
[14:42 - 14:47] Is it easy? No. It fucking kills me inside every day of my fucking life.
[14:47 - 14:53] Knowing that I'll never get to see my son grow up. Knowing that I won't be able to be there for his birthdays.
[14:53 - 15:01] Knowing I won't be there for Christmas. Knowing that I won't be there for any holidays or to see his first steps.
[15:01 - 15:08] Or see him go through school or graduate high school. That shit fucking hurts.
[15:08 - 15:14] So Paul if I were you I'd really rethink what the fuck I'm doing before I do it again.
[15:14 - 15:19] Please let me tell you right now bro Heather ain't worth your fucking time dog.
[15:19 - 15:26] If anything she's a fucking deadbeat piece of shit that doesn't deserve to have her kids.
[15:26 - 15:32] She doesn't deserve to be with anyone. Honestly the way she treats people she doesn't deserve happiness.
[15:32 - 15:38] Not the way she treats people.
[15:38 - 15:43] And I'm sorry if I'm being harsh but I'm being honest with you bro.
[15:43 - 15:53] I'm sorry if I'm being harsh you my guy but I'm being fucking honest bro.
[15:53 - 15:59] Like I'm sorry I'm being harsh but I'm being honest with you man. I'm being real with you man.
[15:59 - 16:03] Because I don't want you to go through what I went through and what her ex Ricky went through.
[16:03 - 16:09] Or what Jessica went through. I don't want that shit for you my dude.
[16:09 - 16:18] I want you to do better for yourself. I want you to do way better for yourself.
[16:18 - 16:27] And like I said dog Heather ain't worth your fucking time. She ain't worth your effort. She ain't worth the fucking time of day dog.
[16:27 - 16:39] So do better for yourself, Paul.
[16:39 - 16:46] Seriously man, do way better for yourself, okay?
[16:46 - 16:51] Like I know you can do better. I know you could.
[16:51 - 16:56] But to date my ex, I don't see how we can be friends.
[16:56 - 17:02] Like if you're dating my ex there's no point in us being friends because I would just make shit awkward.
[17:02 - 17:08] And I don't want to feel awkward.
[17:08 - 17:17] I don't want to have to put up with my fucking ex anymore that I already had to.
[17:17 - 17:24] So like I said Paul, if you were fucking smart you'd drop her and actually find someone better.
[17:24 - 17:30] I know it hurts being alone. I get that. Trust me, I know all about being alone my guy.
[17:30 - 17:35] I know all about being alone because I've been that way for a long time.
[17:35 - 17:39] But let me tell you something that I learned over the years.
[17:39 - 17:54] It's better to be alone and love yourself better than to be with somebody like Heather who's just going to use you.
[17:54 - 18:00] It's better to be alone than to be with somebody who's a user.
[18:00 - 18:04] Because like I said, bro, I don't want to see you go through that.
[18:04 - 18:08] I don't want to see you suffer through what I suffered through.
[18:08 - 18:13] Or what Ricky suffered through or what Jessica suffered through.
[18:13 - 18:18] I don't want that from you. I actually want it better for you, man.
[18:18 - 18:24] But until you get your head out of your fucking ass and get your head on your fucking shoulders,
[18:24 - 18:29] how can that ever fucking happen, bro?
[18:29 - 18:32] Like I said, I know you don't want to be alone. I don't want to be alone.
[18:32 - 18:38] I would love to be happy with someone again. I really would. I would love for that.
[18:38 - 18:44] I would love to be happy. I would love to actually be with somebody again who treats me right,
[18:44 - 18:49] who doesn't do dumb shit to hurt me. I would love for that.
[18:49 - 19:00] I really would. I would love for that to happen. More than anything, I would love that.
[19:00 - 19:07] But like I said, bro, it's better to stand alone and to be alone
[19:07 - 19:14] rather than to be with somebody like Heather, who is going to treat you like shit later on down the line.
[19:14 - 19:23] Trust me, I know. First hand, I know. Ricky knows. Ask her ex, Jessica. She knows.
[19:23 - 19:32] You got three people telling you to stop and to stop fucking dating around to do better.
[19:32 - 19:39] But with you, it just goes in one ear and out the other, don't it?
[19:39 - 19:49] Like I'm trying to help you here, Paul, because you deserve better, man.
[19:49 - 19:59] So I got to say, Paul, please, man, do better for yourself.
[19:59 - 20:06] Find someone better who isn't a fucking cheater, who isn't a piece of shit, who isn't a deadbeat mom,
[20:06 - 20:12] somebody who actually wants to be there and be with you and raise a family with you.
[20:12 - 20:18] Don't be with somebody like her who is going to have a kid with you and then give it up for adoption.
[20:18 - 20:26] Don't do that. Don't make the mistake that I made.
[20:26 - 20:32] I'm trying to help you here, Paul.
[20:32 - 20:39] I'm truly trying to help you because I don't want to see you go through what I did.
[20:39 - 20:46] I don't want to see you suffering more than you already have.
[20:46 - 20:50] So please, Paul, hear the words that I'm telling you.
[20:50 - 20:58] Hear the words that I'm telling you. Do better for yourself because you can do better.
[20:58 - 21:05] You can truly do better. Heather ain't the one for you.
[21:05 - 21:10] Somebody else is, and you need to find that as someone.
[21:10 - 21:21] Like I said, it ain't Heather. I don't know who it's going to be, but somewhere down the line,
[21:21 - 21:25] somebody is going to want to be with you and they are going to love you to pieces,
[21:25 - 21:30] and they are going to want to be with you and spend the rest of their life with you.
[21:30 - 21:47] And that's what you deserve. You deserve to be happy, just like I deserve to be happy.
[21:47 - 21:54] I would love to be happy again. That's why I'm fighting to get my life back.
[21:54 - 21:58] That's why I'm fighting so hard to get my life back to where I wanted to be,
[21:58 - 22:01] to where I can have a normal life and I can have a girlfriend,
[22:01 - 22:06] and I can be normal like I was five months ago.
[22:06 - 22:12] I'm fighting hard for that once again.
[22:12 - 22:19] But you, Paul, you got a lot to learn, and I just hope that you see that at the end of the day, I was right.
[22:19 - 22:24] I hope you see that at the end of the day, I was trying to help you.
[22:24 - 22:29] When Heather leaves you and gets with some other dude,
[22:29 - 22:36] I hope you look back at this video and you realize that I was right and that I've been trying to help you.
[22:36 - 22:40] I hope you realize that, man.
[22:40 - 22:44] So please, Paul. That's right.
[22:44 - 22:55] All right. Do what's right, man.
[22:55 - 23:00] Get rid of her and do better for yourself because you deserve better.
[23:00 - 23:07] You deserve true happiness. You deserve to be happy.
[23:07 - 23:17] Take my advice or not, Paul. Choice is yours. But just know that whatever choice you make, I tried to help you.
[23:17 - 23:20] And I hope you see that.
[23:21 - 23:26] Thank you.